by Jean Wandimi  - February 6, 2023



I sometimes try to figure out about this thing called life and who controls it all. Life should and consists of everyday actions in our lives. Can life exist without love? We all need family love and support all the time. Though, there those who have survived it all without a family but they still have those persons who are always there for them. Well we have to consider that family isn’t always blood. Family can also refer to those people who want you in their lives and the ones who accept you the way you are. The ones who can do anything to see you smile and who love you no matter what. People’s lives make sense and become fully fulfilled when they have such love. the assurance that someone somewhere thinks of you in a good way, wishes you good and will always be there for you is what most of want. And no, I don’t think life can become fully lived when one has no love in it.

What is this thing called love? Well love is all about having a kind heart. A heart that will always be willing to love, to look at the positive side of the other and encourage it, to overlook the weaknesses through accepting them and to put a smile on the other in everyday of their lives.

Some say love is blind, others say it is fulfilling while some regard love as offer of devotion and submission. I will define love from the perspective that love is a man or a woman who is blessed with the gift of looking beyond the physical features of the other, the faults and accepting them in such a way that one takes charge and wants to make a lasting promise to be faithful to that woman. Such men are few and far between to find especially these days where everything is losing meaning and all people care about is only instant gratification and pleasure. What happened to the love that our parents shared when they were little? Does it still exist? Do marriage vows seem to mean as much today as they used to? If you’ve heard anything about the increase in divorce rates, you may wonder. Well, probably just time can tell.

But what happens when one has God’s love with them? According to my opinion, when one seeks God’s love, care and support, one experiences this freedom which makes all problems that looked huge and irresolvable to become as small as ant hills. Life develops direction and now that one knows there is one supernatural being who controls their life, one gets comfort and confidence to face every day with this renewed energy. Well, people should also note that God loves us all equally- whether you have a relationship with him or not. In realizing this, then one can have that inner peace and be able to offer love to others in their lives.

We learn a lot through going experiences with love. You learn that even though you have unreturned love, you don’t have to hold grudges against anyone, since love is a pure, kind and giving act. Once a friend said to me that as long as you had good intentions, then the acceptance of your actions or not should not determine your attitude towards love. I concur with this in that pure hearts should always give and not expect anything back.

Well on another note, some say there is mature love and immature love. Here is the difference,

Immature love says, “I love you because I need you.”

Mature love says, “I need you because I love you.

If you get the difference do tell. Because am still on the search to tell what love is. Don’t be surprised but am not alone in this search, Singer Jeniffer Lopez is also asking what is love in her song ‘What is love’ which she produced in 2010.

Through the media especially soaps and movies, observing the lives of the celebrities, I tend to think we live under a massive cultural delusion about the nature of real love. We learn that from the time you’re born, you’re inundated with the belief that love is a feeling and that when you find “the one” you’ll sense it in your gut and be overcome by an undeniable sense of knowing. When the feeling and corresponding knowing fade (for the knowing is intimately linked to the feeling) and the work of learning about real love begins, most people take the diminished feeling as a sign that they’re in the wrong relationship and walk away. And then they start over again, only to find that the now-familiar knowing and feeling fade again and again and again. The media is deceiving when it comes to definition of what love is and since most of us depend on it and want to emulate our role models in the media such as actors or musicians and other celebrities, we end up in many relationships which we let go eventually for the reason that they are wrong. We never take time before engaging in relationships in the name of love at first site.

We need to realize that love is an action of willingness and having great tolerance. Love is learning your partner’s love language and then expressing love in a way that he or she can receive.Love is giving. Love is receiving. Love is plodding through the slow eddies of a relationship without jumping ship into another’s churning rapids. Love is recognizing that it’s not your partner’s job to make you feel alive, fulfilled, or complete; that’s your job. And it’s only when you learn to become the source of your own aliveness, happiness and are living your life connected to the spark of genius that is everyone’s birthright can you fully love another. Two emotionally stable persons make a healthy love relationship which is bound to succeed and last. Well, I could say now that I truly understand what love is. Just know that when your love is acting lovingly toward you, it’s natural for you to feel joyous, confident, smart and secure. So love is a beautiful thing in deed.


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